This is the additional workbook to the Set Boundaries, Find Peace book that I previously reviewed and loved. I think this workbook is amazing to go alongside it and found it to be incredibly useful! This workbook helps to work through your feelings of discomfort and guilt about setting and maintaining boundaries and helps you to understand what prevents you from advocating for yourself with others. Below are my favorite quotes from the book:

It’s daring to live a boundaried life. It’s brave to run the risk of others becoming upset with you. It takes courage to use your voice. Even through fear, you can set boundaries. Even through guilt, you can set boundaries. 

Don’t abandon your healing

We can’t do it all, and we shouldn’t try. We can’t be everything to everyone, and we shouldn’t try. We can’t please everyone, and we shouldn’t try. 

Needing people is not co-dependence. Enmeshing with them and losing who you are is co-dependence. Making it your job to rescue them from problems of their own doing (without being asked) is co-dependence. Losing touch with your needs and taking on someone else’s is co-dependence. 

A life without healthy boundaries limits your ability to live your life on your own terms. What you want for yourself is clouded by what others say, think, and do. What you need is dimmed because of what others need. When you don’t own and manage your life, others will do it for you. 

Burnout: Emotional, mental, and/or physical exhaustion

Frustration: Feeling annoyed when asked to do something

Benefits of setting healthy boundaries:

*You’ll rid yourself of some unhealthy relationships

*Your healthy relationships will improve

*You’ll create relationships that make you feel happy

*You’ll learn to respect other people’s boundaries

*You’ll improve your ability to be assertive in multiple areas

Even when people don’t like my boundaries, it doesn’t mean I’ve done anything wrong by setting them. 

Consistency is the key to getting people to respect your boundaries. Using pacifying statements only leads people to believe that there’s hope. 

Somewhere along the way, we learn to quiet our desires for the comfort of others. This silencing creates adults who find it challenging to advocate for themselves”. 

When placing boundaries, it’s important to get right down to what you want, need, and expect. 

Discomfort is the number one reason we bypass setting boundaries. But it’s common afterward to feel guilty, afraid, sad, remorseful, or awkward.

Don’t let trying to be nice stop you from doing the hard work of setting limits with others. 

Your job is to figure out what you need.

Emotional maturity impacts a person’s ability to receive, understand, and implement boundaries. Know that their reaction is a reflection of their emotional maturity and experience. 

If you allow your boundaries to be violated because you’re afraid or uncomfortable, you will continue suffering. 

Children need healthy boundaries in the home to be healthy people. They are not capable of managing themselves. 

Relationships that seem perfect are the result of doing the work. 

As we evolve, we change. Therefore, our friendships may no longer fit our current needs. It’s natural to transition from who we were, yet it can be hard to accept that friendships don’t always grow with us. 

Many of us need someone to talk to, but we can’t always be that person for those who deplete our energy and impact our mental health. 

Helping someone without offering solutions sounds like this:

*I hear you. How can I support you?

*Thank you for trusting me with that

*Please tell me what you need from me

*I’m listening

*Cry, and feel what you need to

*Thank you for sharing with me

*I love you, an I’m here for you

*I don’t have an answer, but I’m here to listen

 

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